Part 3: About 12 months before the bath
It wasn’t all pretty, no, it was this up and down within the bounds of normal – whatever that might be. One evening, sitting on the sofa, a definite feeling came over me: I want a child. More precisely: my body wants a child. Now. Soon. No, right away. The mind also quickly agreed and my girlfriend saw it the same way.
Only how should we go about it? We discussed a few days and then a few and a few more and at some point it was clear, we wanted a father to the child. At best, the biological one. There were men in my circle of friends who were eligible – but they either had families of their own or were very likely to start one someday. The thought that our child would then possibly always remain number two with his own father made us turn away from heterosexual men. So we needed a man who had to go on a search just like we did and for whom there would then also be only this one exclusive family. A gay man.